On my last post (you know, the one about the red long johns), Barbara asked me if Jay reads my blog.
It got me wondering. How many of your husbands actually read your blogs (or even know about them)? And how do you feel about it?
I’ll go first.
Yes, Jay reads my blog (Religiously). He even comments once in a great while. I like it because it gives us something to talk about, helps him understand this weird blog thing that I’m doing (can you really understand it without reading it?) and keeps him up-to-date about what I’ve got going on.
I don’t like it because he rarely asks me about my day. Why should he when he already read about it?! Also I have to be careful not to cross the line into downright mean and nasty. (have we talked about the Garbage Issue? No? See, this is why.)
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May 14, 2008 at 8:50 am
As far as I know, my husband doesnt read my blog, unless I specifically ask him to. I’d be fine if he did read it though. I think.
May 14, 2008 at 9:17 am
My husband ACTS like he doesn’t read it and secretly does, but only so often as I can’t rely on him knowing anything!
May 14, 2008 at 9:20 am
As I mentioned Paul doesn’t read mine, he might someday, but not now.
May 14, 2008 at 9:33 am
My live-in boyfriend reads my blog. As you said, it’s both a blessing and a curse. It’s good that he can read some of my thoughts, and perhaps get a better understanding, because I’ve always felt I was much better at expressing myself through writing vs. speaking. The downside is that I also have to be careful what I write, because I know there’s a good chance he’ll see it. So, if I’d like to vent about something that’s going on between him and I, I can’t do it on my blog!
May 14, 2008 at 9:45 am
The Man reads my blog. He likes that I have a way to express my feelings (it makes for less “expressing” my feelings TOWARDS him), and he’s really good about never saying, “Oh you shouldn’t have said that” or anything. He’s very supportive.
May 14, 2008 at 10:09 am
Yes- my husband reads mine. And if he’s sitting at the computer laughing, I know he’s reading it.
It makes me feel good to make him laugh that way- and he sees a little bit of a different side of me.
He’s very supportive about the whole thing!
May 14, 2008 at 10:10 am
My husband doesn’t read it and doesn’t even seem interested in it. It doesn’t bother me, but I wouldn’t mind him reading it either.
The only thing he was interested in was if I was using real names and since I’m not what his “name” would be LOL!
May 14, 2008 at 10:15 am
My husband started my blog. :) He reads and comments. I do start a conversation with people though and they say, “Yeah, I read about that.” Kinda weird.
May 14, 2008 at 10:18 am
Bryan reads, but has been a bit behind lately because of a big project at work. He comments infrequently… mainly because he is afraid most people won’t gets his messed up sense of humor. ;)
May 14, 2008 at 10:18 am
He reads it but not lots…but checks in..I think he is boggled that people DO read it
May 14, 2008 at 10:26 am
My husband doesn’t read my blog, even when I want him to. I can’t get him to do it. I guess it’s more fun to surf on digg for weird news stories…
May 14, 2008 at 10:34 am
My wife and children read my blog. While my children sarcastically make comments, my wife never does. She does tell me in person what she wants to say though.
chris at watdawat.com
May 14, 2008 at 10:43 am
My husband knows that I have a blog, but he never reads it. He’s (gasp) not much of a computer guy.
May 14, 2008 at 10:52 am
My husband rolls his eyes about my blogs, but he checks my comments more compulsively than I do, and makes sure I know when there is a new one on an old post. He reads a TON of blogs. But he never comments, because apparently, commenting is for girls.
May 14, 2008 at 11:09 am
No, my husband doesn’t read my blog. But then he won’t read anything unless it has to do with Stereo’s, Truck parts, or Trains. None of which I blog about, so he would be bored out of his mind. I would be fine if he read it though, although I might need to take out that whole “stupid husband tricks” catagory.
May 14, 2008 at 11:17 am
Husband reads my blog and protests to most of what I say to him. I always respond…well, “you could leave a comment.” Or, “You could respond in your own blog.” And yet he never does. Perhaps he’s skeered!;)
May 14, 2008 at 11:34 am
He knows about it and occassionally reads. It actually kind of hurts my feelings that he doesn’t read more often since this whole blogging this is such a huge part of my life.
May 14, 2008 at 11:37 am
My Hubby reads my Blog. I think he’s addicted to it. Well … of course he is he’s addicted to me. :-P
May 14, 2008 at 11:55 am
No. G’s not interested. He knows I have a blog, but he really could care less about reading it. If it’s not about sports or politics, he could care less – funny, if it’s about sports or politics, I could care less…
May 14, 2008 at 11:59 am
Same. My husband reads mine religiously too. He never says anything about it though, unless he thinks I’ve crossed the line (rarely) or stretched the truth (sometimes!)
May 14, 2008 at 11:59 am
My husband DID NOT KNOW about my blog until two weeks ago. He said something that made me think he’d read a certain post so I asked if he’d read my web site. What web site? So I revealed the blog.
Now he reads. I think it’s OK. He’s told me to please not censor myself and he thinks he’s seeing a side of me he didn’t know before. I think that’s probably true.
Having been only a few weeks, I don’t know yet if I’ll end up regretting having him as a reader!
May 14, 2008 at 12:26 pm
My husband doesn’t read my blog unless I tell him there’s an entry he should pay attention to or I read a particular entry to him.
May 14, 2008 at 12:33 pm
My fiance reads my blog, which kind of irks me. Before we met, I used to be able to write about anything, and now I find myself censoring what I write. He tends to get upset when I write one of those private journal type posts, even if it’s something we’ve talked about. As a result, I don’t blog as much as I used to.
May 14, 2008 at 12:45 pm
My husband reads my blog when I force him to. He pretends to enjoy it. I think he thinks I’m weird (but he loves me anyway–I hope).
May 14, 2008 at 12:56 pm
Yes, my husband reads my blog a couple of times a week, but he never comments because he thinks I run a man-free zone. He is very supportive. But do you know who reads my blog religiously? My two kids. They are always talking about it, and knowing they are reading it sort of censors me in a healthy way.
May 14, 2008 at 1:06 pm
mine reads. doesn’t usually comment. he likes to check on what i’m posting about him…he thinks i always make him look bad.
May 14, 2008 at 1:25 pm
No, I’m not even sure if he could find it. I do, however, read to him whatever I might think he’d like.
Now I’m wondering if he would even be interested in reading it every time he gets on the net.
May 14, 2008 at 1:47 pm
My husband reads mine. I’m ok with it but I’ll never forgive him for telling his mother about it. Now she reads it and that’s ….. not my favorite thing in the world.
Augh! It took me three tries to get the word verification right!
May 14, 2008 at 2:02 pm
Yup, my husband reads my blog. But it doesn’t really matter since the in-laws read it to so that automatically censors enough that I don’t mind him reading it! ;)
May 14, 2008 at 2:14 pm
SmilingMom.com says:
Yes. It’s good and bad. I think he respects me more as a writer these days. And he comments to me at times that he thinks I’m pretty funny and clever. But at times he calls me on things I write.
And I went through a long period of time where I felt that I couldn’t write. I just felt too much pressure to write about happy things when I wasn’t feeling so happy.
But in the end I think it’s helped shape me into being a more positive and less negative blogger. And in the big picture, I think that’s healthy. :-)
May 14, 2008 at 3:26 pm
Yes. He reads. And he comments. And what do you think of that?? Ask that question of your readers, because my hubby asked if it’s appropriate for him to comment.
“Uh, I guess.”, was the only way I knew to respond.
Mostly it’s fine – because I rarely feel the need to talk about him behind his back.
But it can be bad, because it’s sometimes pretty telling what I HAVE been doing, instead of what I SHOULD HAVE been doing.
Oops.
BTW – can you change your comment settings to allow self-hosted comments. I’m not on any of the options and had to comment with my old blog address.
May 14, 2008 at 4:24 pm
My husband thinks I share way too much information on my writing blog – he doesn’t need to read my mommy blog his eyeballs might pop out.
May 14, 2008 at 4:49 pm
my husband TOTALLY reads my blog.
sometimes he suggests topics.
and when all the kids are together and they are generating more blog fodder than i can keep up with (since i can’t take notes at the table!), he sometimes reminds me of what i forgot…
May 14, 2008 at 6:13 pm
Hubs reads my blog once in a blue moon, but he’ll read all the posts he’s missed. I’m glad he reads it — keeps me accountable! He’d call me on it if I embellish too much. Besides, I’d never want to write anything that I would want to keep secret, anyway.
May 14, 2008 at 6:25 pm
hubby reads it every once in a while when he is bored. but he is the soul person in my real life who knows about it, so the poor guy hears everything about my blogging life.
hey got a good contest right now on my site…
May 14, 2008 at 6:35 pm
My hubby is a blog subscriber. And he tells people about it so I usually run it by him if I am going to embarass him. That doesn’t mean I won’t, I just give him a heads up :)
May 14, 2008 at 7:00 pm
My husband only reads mine when I say HONEY! READ MY BLOG!! then he says ok ok ok and reads it.
Sad, really.
May 14, 2008 at 7:58 pm
He only reads it if I tell him to look at something specific. EXCEPT that sometimes he stands over my shoulder while I’m writing — which. I. HATE. It’s like watching someone try on dresses that might be too small, without any regard for whether she will actually want you to see her in said dress until she tells you she’s ready to be soon. y’know? But if he reads it once it’s up there, that’s fine.
May 14, 2008 at 8:14 pm
We are a military family & live far away from our own families. All of our family reads my blog to stay caught up on our lives. My husband, on the other hand, could probably not tell you the name of my blog. He probably could not tell you the name of my online store either. He doesn’t “get it”. He works long hours & blogging is my “entertainment” while he is away.
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May 14, 2008 at 9:11 pm
mine reads, but pretends like he doesn’t.
May 14, 2008 at 9:43 pm
My husband reads every post. But I only hear about it if I write about how I pilfered $5 from his wallet or how he fell asleep at a party.
Deb
sandiegomomma.com
May 14, 2008 at 10:01 pm
My husband reads, usually because I ask him to!
But he’s starting to read it more regularly. He also helps me with design (he did the Attitude of Gratitude button), logistics, and plain ol’ moral support.
May 15, 2008 at 4:20 am
Mr. Schmitty reads my blog when I tell him I’ve posted something he might find amusing. He doesn’t use the computer much (usually because he can’t push my butt off the chair) so I don’t think he reads it unless I point something out.
May 15, 2008 at 7:29 am
I read it TO my husband, since he rarely takes his eyes off the TV….
May 15, 2008 at 7:48 am
My hubby actually subscribes to my blog via RSS. (And for that I’m so proud of his newly found “techie skills”.) But I experience the same thing.
Me: “Did I should you the beautiful antique necklace my Grandma left me?”
Jay: sarcastic “duh” tone“Yep. I saw it on your blog.”
But at least it shows he’s interested in what *I’m* interested in…
May 15, 2008 at 8:29 am
I just found your blog today and thought this is a great topic. My husband actually does not read my blog–at all–reason is that he knows that no matter what it says I will be talking about it when he gets home. LOL I think if that stopped then he probably would check it out from time to time.
May 15, 2008 at 8:36 am
In the beginning, he didn’t like it. He was always upset that I wrote things he took wrong. I told him to stop reading it. Now, he tells me that he likes reading it because it gives him an insight to a different me that he doesn’t get to see. And on a rare occasion I will hear him quote my blog. lol
May 15, 2008 at 8:37 am
My husband reads my blog but never comments on it. Once in awhile he makes a casual remark that lets me know he’s been reading. It’s kinda cute. I know my blog has given him a little more insight about our days.
May 15, 2008 at 8:54 am
He reads it, but he never comments, at least in written comments. I hate the times when he reads and has nothing to say.
He wasn’t too thrilled with my birthday cake post and my description of his role.
May 15, 2008 at 9:52 am
My hubby hates anything to do with computers and the internet and does not touch the computer at all. I told him last year that I had started a blog and he thought that I was sick and had to go to the doctor. When I get a check or payment for some affiliate programs and such from my blog he just does not understand what it is for.
May 15, 2008 at 10:05 am
Your post motivated me to do something I’ve been meaning to do for a while…change my husband’s “blog name” (since it’s the only thing he was interested in anyway.) I suppose it would make a good threat to change it to something really awful if he makes me mad enough LOL! But seriously, I’ve been meaning to “upgrade” him from an initial to his actual nickname around the house.
May 15, 2008 at 12:18 pm
My hubby reads mine! Actually, it’s one way to keep him in the loop since he works so much and has to miss so many of the girls’ activities. Which is one reason why I tend to post so many soccer photos. :)
May 15, 2008 at 3:50 pm
ah…venting time.
he never read my blog
(and actually on several occasions before during a heated argument will tell me to go write ‘this’ in my damn blog.)
until one day he realizes that i actually have readers (aka blog friends) that actually reads it. so now he checks it every couple of days….
May 15, 2008 at 6:44 pm
Mine doesn’t, unless I tell him that I want him to. He did look at my blog when I first put it out there. And, he complimented it! I was shocked. Now, he will “listen” when I read him other blogs. ang
May 16, 2008 at 5:52 am
Mr B reads my blog occasionally, or if I point him towards a certain post or want his opinion before I post it. Part of me wishes he read it more, but he says he can’t because he can’t get near the pc, which is probably true. :D
May 16, 2008 at 5:19 pm
I have two blogs. My ex, who claims to hate me, still reads my “family” blog religiously. Far as I can tell, he doesn’t know about the “new” blog – and he probably wouldn’t like it….so I hope he doesn’t find it til the papers are final.
May 16, 2008 at 9:18 pm
Hubby says he reads my blog, but I doubt he does. I’ll talk about something that I blogged about and be like, “Didn’t you read it on my blog?” Then he’s like, “Uh… oh yeah, yeah. That’s right.” I’m on to him! I think he just looks for his name.
May 17, 2008 at 8:56 pm
Just found you on blogged. I wish my husband (and his family) didn’t read my blog, but they DO. And my husband has the gall to critique if he thinks something will offend his family. No kidding. Drives me nuts. But probably makes me kinder in the end. Thanks for writing – I’ll be visiting often! (And I can’t believe your kid poured himself a cup of maple syrup. Awesome.)
May 17, 2008 at 10:41 pm
My husband asked me at the dinner table a few weeks ago; “So, what exactly is a blog.” I was so dumbfounded by the question that I didn’t really have an answer, but it was amusing to hear the children all at once explaining it to him and wondering which rock he just crawled out from under.
May 19, 2008 at 7:27 am
My husband does NOT read my blog. He is not even aware of it, but he does know that I enjoy reading blogs. I like reading this conversation though. I have thought about it over and over about telling my husband about my blog. I think he would read it, but I worry about what how he would react. Would he be supportive or critical? Or would he not care at all? So for a year now I have wondered those things, and here I am still wondering. My biggest fear is that I would have to filter myself if my husband and family read. I do not want to hold back things I would like to say there just because they are reading. I suppose we would have to make an agreement that he would let me express myself through this outlet and not judge.
May 20, 2008 at 12:45 pm
He knows about it and he reads it every so often…I definitely FILTER on the off chance he’ll see what I wrote. PLUS…his MOM reads it, so there’s that. And, he constantly picks up my Blackberry to check what my comments are…I hate that.
May 21, 2008 at 8:29 pm
my husband reads my blog regularly. I send him messages this way – start posting messages about my upcoming birthday or anniversary and what I want…
Ok it’s not always successful, but I’m workin on it
May 22, 2008 at 12:27 am
My husband reads. Occassionally I get into trouble for making fun of him. Like when I said he didn’t have the B*lls to kill spiders.
Oh well, it gives me another blog post – an apology and retraction.