My to-do list for this weekend was very, very long. And somehow, I woke up Monday with a list that was no shorter, and maybe even longer. Drat!
See, this is what happens when we get sunshine in Seattle.
Like newly released prisoners, we stumble outside shading our eyes from the brilliant rays, murmuring and whispering and shuffling around. Until finally the shock wears off and we begin leaping and twirling and SHOUTING for joy. And nothing gets done, unless spending the day outside is on your list of things to do. Sadly it isn’t on mine.
So I shrugged off my responsibilities (tomorrow! will get to them tomorrow!) and joined Jay and CJ and some friends at the park to soak in the rays and enjoy a warm Fall Saturday. Ahhh, this is living.
We found an old wooden set of bleachers where the adults lounged and chatted while CJ and his friend used the baseball field to build imaginary fortresses and fend off horrific villains.
We were alone in our little corner of the park. Across the field small soccer players kicked a ball while their parents looked on. Joggers ran by… a man with a dog… a boy on a bike. And then… A GIRL on a bike.
This is where the story got interesting. At least for two 4-year old boys.
A 7 year old girl on a light blue bike with streamers began riding in circles around the baseball diamond.
Imaginary play came to a screeching halt as CJ and Parker fixed their gaze on this new and fascinating intruder.
Every time she rode her bike close to them, they let out forced bellows of laughter, clapping each other on the back and falling to the ground. The pony-tailed rider ignored them, riding around and around with a beatific smile.
After ten minutes of this, the boys decided they needed to take it up a notch.
“You’re going to JAIL!” they shouted, chasing after her.
Still no response from the elusive but fascinating girl, so CJ and Parker huddled in the dugout to confer.
Plan C involved throwing their bodies at the chain-link fence, shouting out “DO YOU WANT TO BE OUR FRIEND?!” and falling (with drama) onto the ground. Over and over and over and over and over again.
I watched this weird cave-man type ritual and couldn’t help but envision them 10 years from now, fourteen year olds, engaging in basically the same type of play.
CRASH RATTLE… DO YOU WANT TO BE OUR FRIEND?!… THUD
and repeat.
It’s the mating call of the ages.
And then, like magic, it WORKED! The object of our little boys’ affection got off her bike to play with them. Like lemmings they forced each other to higher and higher steps on the second set of bleachers, then leaping – arms flailing – to the ground.
This is romance. The making-a-fool-of-yourself. The playing hard to get. The making-a-BIGGER-fool of yourself and having it WORK. The scary lengths you’ll go to in order to impress each other.
I think back to my dating years, and realize that as much as we think we grow up, really we don’t. We just adopt increasingly more sophisticated versions of this very basic pattern.
I’m glad I don’t have to do THAT any more!
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October 16, 2007 at 12:24 pm
Hahaha! So true! The game is the same, the model just gets updated! Lol!
October 16, 2007 at 1:19 pm
That must have been hysterical!! Were you and the other adults dying?? What a great scene. :=)
October 16, 2007 at 1:56 pm
That’s great! I have a friend who’s looking for a man. Maybe a bike and some blue streamers…
October 16, 2007 at 2:10 pm
I can totally picture that! And yeah, I’m glad we’re past that stage (just a little) and don’t have to do that anymore either!
October 16, 2007 at 2:48 pm
This is funny . . .because it’s so true!
October 16, 2007 at 2:56 pm
Isn’t it just so funny? Fascinating to watch (until they are teens; then, not so funny).
October 16, 2007 at 3:42 pm
Ahhh, but at least they did not have to beat each other up to show her that they ‘cared’.
October 16, 2007 at 5:34 pm
Awww. How cute… they’re starting younger and younger these days, aren’t they???
October 16, 2007 at 6:36 pm
The making-a-BIGGER-fool of yourself and having it WORK.
Ohmygodthisismylifemotto!
Fool Power!
Believe in it.
Live it.
Watch it WORK.
October 16, 2007 at 6:45 pm
I can’t believe CJ does this at the tender young age of 4!!! I would have thought it would be a few more years before he noticed girls!
October 16, 2007 at 7:28 pm
Very cute story- and so accurate. Good eye!
October 16, 2007 at 8:43 pm
What’s up with 4-year-old boys and their fascination with “jail”? My son mentions jail all the time. Should I be worried?
Glad you son was successful picking up his first older lady.
It was a LOVELY weekend in Seattle. Now the damn rain is back in full force.
October 16, 2007 at 9:47 pm
Me want girl on bike *thud*thud* Me yell and get girl on bike *thud*
October 17, 2007 at 6:24 am
Amen, sister! I’m glad I don’t have to do that either!That and shaving my legs every single day. bah.
October 17, 2007 at 8:25 am
Lol! If I did have to go through that again, I think I would just stay single.
October 17, 2007 at 10:06 am
oh that’s so funny! i can’t wait to see what my boys are gonna do in that type of situation. as it is, Zander is already a big flirt and a show-off for the girls. He invited my friend Sindy to join him for his bath one night…
October 17, 2007 at 10:07 am
oh that’s so funny! i can’t wait to see what my boys are gonna do in that type of situation. as it is, Zander is already a big flirt and a show-off for the girls. He invited my friend Sindy to join him for his bath one night…
October 18, 2007 at 6:41 am
Yep, this reminds me of my husband when he was trying to hook me. And I fell for it. Hook, line and sinker!! I am glad I bit that at that one! What an adorable story!