Remember how I was having that whole birthday party freak-out?
Jay and I had another conversation about it last night. Here’s an excerpt:
Me: We MUST figure out what to do about CJ’s birthday party.
Jay: MMphgrmphl.
Me: You’re not listening again…
Jay: Huh?
Me: I SAID we need to figure out what to do about CJ’s Birthday party.
Jay: What’s the problem?
Me: (weary sigh) WELL, as I’ve said before… I don’t know where to have it.
Jay: Have it at our house.
Me: Are you KIDDING me? There’s no way I want a million kids running around our house. It’s too small. Plus all the parents… it’d be a nightmare!
Jay: Why are you inviting a million kids?
Me: (VERY weary sigh) AS I’VE SAID, you can’t just invite some of the kids from preschool without inviting all of them.
Jay: Why in the world not? That’s crazy. Do you think when he’s in elementary school you’ll have to invite the whole class? That’s not how it works.
Me: (silent; I hadn’t considered this perspective before)
Jay: Just ask CJ who he wants to invite.
Just when I have myself convinced that I am the only sane one in this marriage, he goes and pulls something like this… and reminds me that I’m actually the INsane one.
(weary sigh)
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May 21, 2007 at 3:58 pm
Haha. That’s great. Yeah, in my (limited) experience, you really don’t want more than ten or so kids at a birthday party…
May 21, 2007 at 4:01 pm
Unless, of course, you’re planning to spend $500 on ridiculousness and show up all your neighbors… which is, of course, a viable option…
May 21, 2007 at 4:31 pm
What mom can’t relate to that! We tried that we really did, but it still got outta hand! We still have to invite everyone who invited us to their birthday party, all the kids our child loves to play with, the family you can’t avoid inviting even if you wanted not to, the neighbor’s kids who our kid plays with all the time and who’ll hear about it, the playgroup kids as well for the same reason. The result? Initial list 12 kids. Final list with all accounts settled 25 kids. A nightmare!
May 21, 2007 at 4:43 pm
I’m just praying for sunshine when Emma’s birthday rolls around, so I can toss ‘em all in the backyard. =P
Realizing you’re the crazy one is a huge step – congrats!
May 21, 2007 at 4:49 pm
Good luck with that ;) – Have fun at the party, wherever you have it, and however many you have there!
May 21, 2007 at 5:07 pm
If we let Adam pick who to invite we would be looking at over 30 kids.
So..noooooo
May 21, 2007 at 5:15 pm
I am with you…I can’t have a huge party at my house. Too much stress!
I am wondering how many kidos CJ will want to invite. ;)
May 21, 2007 at 5:47 pm
well, your husband is wrong. I have found out when they hit elementary school you invite the whole class, well at least in Kindergarten, that is as far as I have gotten so far.
May 21, 2007 at 6:25 pm
What if you follow the age rule. One kid for every year of the child’s age?
At the same time, I hate having parties inside my house, because then I’d have to clean.
You can see my dilemma.
May 21, 2007 at 6:41 pm
ditto on what mamma said!
May 21, 2007 at 8:17 pm
We’re in the same dilemma on the birthday party ideas. We’ve always done small parties with my friends and their kids (4 kids total) and that was so much fun. But Nicholas has his own friends now. *sigh* Yeah, I’m in the same boat and I feel like I’m drowning.
May 21, 2007 at 10:06 pm
letting my 3 turning 4 year old come up with her guest list completely backfired! She invited EVERY soul she connected with in the few weeks we were in heavy planning mode before her birthday PLUS her very good friends from preschool and her everyday life. We had 20 kids and it worked out fine but I should have told her she was limited to a set number of friends. It was her first real party and I was happy she was as into it as I was so I didn’t want to backtrack on my original promise to her. I agree, though, you don’t need to invite everyone from the preschool class. (although I do know of some private schools in our community that have the rule that if one or some classmates are invited to a party, then ALL classmates must be invited to a party). I like the 1+ the age rule but I think it is too hard once the kid gets to a certain age. A friend told me that she has a “big” party every other year. The off year is just very low key with just 1 or 2 friends for playing and cake. Good luck with that guest list. I really enjoy your blog!
May 22, 2007 at 1:38 pm
Yup, I agree with mommymommy…unless you mail out individual invitations when he hits grade school, most schools require you invite the entire class. We learned that the HARD way. We send a few (six) invitations to school with the youngest for her birthday party, figuring she could just hand them out to her closest friends…well…those invitations came home with the admonishment that if we are going to send invitations to school, the entire class must be invited so no one feels left out.
We invited the entire class. Thank goodness it was nice enough to have part of the party OUTSIDE.